Understanding the psychology of ourselves and others around us can play a huge part in our happiness. Whether it is believing we aren’t good enough because we’re told we should be at a certain point in our lives by a certain time, or it is simply misunderstanding others’ intentions or reactions to us, we need to get into a better mindset that will limit the amount of the negative things in our lives.

   So we need to make a habit of learning some psychological lessons that are important to living an easier life. One of such lessons is realizing that people don’t care as much as you think. Being so caught up in what others think of us or acting in a way that will meet other people’s expectations is harmful to us because everyone is occupied with their own problems and insecurities. Actually, most of what we believe people are thinking is only assumptions our own minds create based on past experiences or incorrect thoughts. Be yourself without worrying what others think will go a long way towards achieving personal happiness.

   It’s easy to think that we are the same person we were ten years ago and will be thinking and feeling the same in another ten years, but we are not. Our former, present and future selves are all independent because our mindsets change with our lives’ situations and experiences. Because of this, we should always be true to our present selves when making decisions. We can never predict what our future self will think and feel and everything that happened in the past was for our former selves.

   Have you ever seen a friend’s problem and known what they need to do to sort it out? You give advice but it just seems to fall on deaf ears. You feel frustrated because, after all, you just want to help them. The thing is, no one ever really listens to advice unless they happen to be in the right mindset at the right time. At the end of the day, people will only change their mindsets or outlooks through their own realization and experiences. Sometimes the change may come in the form of your advice but most of the time it needs to happen for them at their own paces. Don’t feel ignored or disheartened--- you did your bit, now let them work it out.