Do you get angry when your friends sing loudly while you are trying to work, or when your best friend does not wait for you after school?

If you do, you need to take control of your feelings and stop getting angry so easily. Getting angry with people can cause you to lose friends.

Gray Gerber, an American high school teacher, has written My Feelings Are Like Wild Animals to help you control your feelings. It tells teens how to stay cool when bad things happen to them.

The book says that getting angry only makes problems worse. It can never make them better. Getting angry is not a natural way to act, the book says. It is just a bad habit, like smoking.

The book says you can control your anger easily. All you have to do is tell yourself not to be angry. When a baby falls over, he only cries if people are watching him.

Like a baby, you should only get angry if you are sure it is the right thing to do. The book gives many tips(提示)to help you if you get angry easily. Here are our tips:

   (1)Keep a record. Every time you get angry, write down why you are angry.

   (2)Ask your friends to stop talking to you when you get angry. This will teach you not to be angry.

   (3)Do something different. When you get angry, walk away from the problem and go somewhere else. Try to laugh.

   If you donˈt love yourself first, how can you confidently give and receive love? Only when we fully realize who we are and accept ourselves, can we understand the love of someone else.

      So letˈs start with some questions by asking yourself. Who are you deep down inside? What are your goals, strengths, clever ideas, likes and dislikes? What do you need to control your weaknesses and improve your growth?

     Self-discovery can be scary, because most people consider themselves to be unimportant. They would rather become dependent than depend on their own. Is that true in your case?

     Loving yourself influences your life. It influences whom you choose to fall in love with and your action in the relationship. lf there is no self-esteem (自尊), there will be no love.

     A person with high self-esteem is responsible for himself or herself, no matter how much love and care there is between that person and others. Such a person is not waiting to be saved and will not place unnecessary dependence on others. He or she is confident of his or her own ability, value and mind. He or she remembers that he or she is the prize.

     A person with high self-esteem depends on his or her own happiness, rather than looking for

someone else to make him or her happy. Happiness is an "inside" job. When you accept this responsibility for yourself, you build self-esteem, and then you receive love.

a. Asking others to answer questions.      

b. Finding out about oneˈs own likes and dislikes.

c. Improving oneˈs own growth.           

d. Finding out oneˈs own hidden facts. 

“Have a nice day!”may be a pleasant gesture or a meaningless expression. When my friend Maxie says “Have a nice day” with a smile, I know she sincerely cares about what happens to me. I feel loved and secure since another person cares about me and wishes me well.

“Have a nice day. Next!”This version of expression is spoken by a salesgirl at the supermarket who is rushing me and my groceries out the door. The words come out in the same tone (腔调) with a fixed procedure. They are spoken at me, not to me. Obviously, the concern for my day and everyone else’s is the management’s attempt to increase the business.

The expression is one of those behaviors that help people get along with each other. Sometimes it indicates the end of a meeting. As soon as you hear it, you know the meeting is at an end. Sometimes the expression serves us when we don’t know what to say. “Oh, you just had a tooth out? I’m terribly sorry, but have a nice day.”

The expression can be pleasant. If a stranger says “Have a nice day” to you, you may find it heart-warming because someone you don’t know has tried to be nice to you.

Although the use of the expression is an insincere, meaningless social custom at times, there is nothing wrong with the sentence except that it is a little uninteresting. The salesgirl, the waitress, the teacher, and all the countless others who speak it without thinking may not really care about my day. But in a strange and comfortable way, it’s nice to know they care enough to pretend they care when they really don’t care all that much. While the expression may not often be sincere, it is always spoken. The point is that people say it all the time when they like.

Life comes in a package. This package includes happiness and sadness, failure and success, hope and despair. Life is a learning process. Experiences in life teach us new lessons and make us a better person. With each passing day we learn to deal with kinds of situations．

Love plays an important role in our life. Love makes you feel wanted. Without love a person could become cruel. In the early stage of our life, our parents are the ones who show us with unconditional love and care, they teach us about what is right and wrong, good and bad. But we always tend to take this for granted (认为理所应当). It is only after marriage and having kids that a person understands and becomes sensitive to others’ feelings.

Happiness achieved by bringing a smile on otherˈs face gives a certain level of fulfillment(成就)．Peace of mind makes you feel happy. No mind is happy without peace. We realize the true worth of happiness when we are sad．Sadness comes from the death of a loved one or the failure .But all of these things will pass away.

Failure is the way to success, and it helps us to touch the sky, teaches us to survive and shows us a specific way. Success brings in money, fame, pride and self-respect.

Hope is what keeps life going. Parents always hope their children will do well. Hope makes us dream. Hope builds in patience. Life teaches us not to despair even in the darkest hour, because after every night there is a day.

   Life teaches us not to regret over yesterday, for it has passed and is beyond our control. Tomorrow is unknown, for it could either be bright or dull. So what we can choose is to work hard today, so that we will enjoy a better tomorrow.

For some people, music is no fun at all. About 4% of the population is what scientists call “amusic.” People who are amusic are born without the ability to enjoy musical notes(音调). Amusic people often cannot tell the difference between two songs.

As a result, songs sound like noise to an amusic. Many amusics compare the sound of music to pieces of metal hitting each other. Life can be hard for amusics. In fact, most people cannot understand what it feels like to be amusic. Just going to a restaurant or a shopping center can be uncomfortable or even painful. That is why many amusics have to stay away from places where there is music. However, this can result in social loneliness. “I used to hate parties,” says Margaret, a seventy-year-old woman who only recently discovered that she was amusic. By studying people like Margaret, scientists are finally learning how to identify(辨别) this unusual condition.

Scientists say that the brains of amusics are different from those of people who can enjoy music. The difference is complex(复杂的), and it is not connected with poor hearing. Amusics can understand other nonmusical sounds well. They also have no problems understanding common speech. Scientists compare amusics to people who just can’t see certain colors.

Many amusics are happy when their condition is finally diagnosed (诊断). For years, Margaret felt embarrassed about her problem with music. Now she knows that she is not alone. That makes it easier for her to explain. “When people invite me to a concert, I just say, “No, thanks. I’m amusic,” says Margaret.

 Many kids do housework such as doing the dishes, making the bed, and folding the clothes. In exchange, they get some money or other computer time.

 Paying kids for housework is one of the most popular topics, especially at a time when everyone is more careful about money. Some parents think since adults are paid to do their jobs, we should pay kids for everyday housework.

 But some people don’t think kids should get rewards(报酬) for doing housework. Susie Walton, an expert, believe that by rewarding kids, parents are sending a message that work isn’t worth doing unless you get something in return. “Running any kind of housework is a team effort” Walton said, “A home is a living place for everyone in the family. It’s important for kids to see that we all have responsibilities in the house, and families decide how they want their home to look like, and how they are going to keep it looking like.” 

  Other people believe that getting a reward encourages kids to do housework, and it also teaches them real world lessons about how we need to work to get money. There are also apps(程序) to give kids points and digital gifts that can be redeemed(兑现) either online or in the real world. “Our goal is to give kids lawful power so they can get rewards,” says Chris Bergman. “And kids need rewards to help encourage them.” 

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It is known that most people spend one third of their lives sleeping. So sleeping is important to our health and daily lives. But the problem is that for most people, especially office workers, it is not easy to get enough sleep. For centuries, people have been troubled by insomnia. There are three ways to deal with it

Pay attention to your daily diet!

How well you sleep is closely connected to your daily diet. If you eat fat or hard-to-digest food for supper or eat just before you sleep, it will keep keeping you awake. What should be on your daily menu? For supper, you can choose something low-fat and digestible like fish, chicken or lean meat, rice and wheat. All the foods mentioned above can soothe the nerves(舒缓神经). Avoid foods that cause gas such as potato, corn, bread, carbonic acid(碳酸)drinks. If you still can not sleep well after cutting out these harmful foods, try adding some foods that will make you sleepy

Create a good sleeping environment

A good sleeping environment includes comfortable pajamas, a soft quilt, and most importantly, a comfortable bed.

Do something relaxing

In order to get a good night's sleep, you should not only relax your body, but also your mind. Try to do something to relax your mind before going to bed. Listening to soft music, reading or watching some light TV for half an hour before going to bed is a good way to make you feel sleepy. If you still can't sleep, try some exercise like walking or jogging to get rid of stress and increase your blood circulation(血液循环). Also taking a bath or soaking（浸泡）your feet in warm water can help your blood circulation and relax your body.

Many young people have trouble communicating with their parents. However, there are some very useful tips to help solve this problem.

First, make a list of the things you and your parents disagree about most. With each of these things, try to find an answer acceptable to both you and your parents. It is no good for you to require everything to go your way. You have to be ready to change a little if you want them to change.           

Second, talk to your parents when it is convenient for them. Remember that your parents may have to work long hours and this can make them tired, so be patient with them.

Third, listen to what your parents have to say. How can you expect them to listen to you if you are not ready to listen to them? In addition, your parents were once young like you, so they understand your situation better than you expect.

Finally, if you do not get a satisfactory result, try not to get too angry. Talk with your parents and find out their reasons. Part of growing up is learning to live with these kinds of disagreements, and learning to understand another person’s way of looking at things.

With a little hard work, you can learn to communicate better with you parents.

When you are learning English, listening, speaking and writing are important, but reading can also be very helpful. When you read, you can not only learn some new words, but also you can learn how to use these English words. When you read, it gives you a good example for writing.

Good reading tips :

Try to read at the right level(水平). Read something that you can (more or less) understand. If you need to stop every three words to use a dictionary, it is not interesting.

Try to increase the number of your new words. If there are four or five new words on a page, write them in your notebook. But you don’t have to write them while you read. Instead, try to guess their meaning as you read: mark them with a pen. Then come back when you have finished reading to look them up in a dictionary and write them in your own vocabulary book. Then try to remember them.

Try to read regularly. For example, read for a short time once a day. Fifteen minutes every day is better than two hours every Sunday. Fix(固定)a time to read and keep to it. You could read for fifteen minutes when you go to bed, or when you get up or at lunchtime.

Read what interests you. Choose a book or a magazine about a subject that you like, because you are going to spend time and money reading it. So, choose an interesting book. You can also read newspapers. There are many English newspapers in China. For example, 21st Century Teens . It is easy enough for you to understand it . There is something interesting in it.

Have you ever had trouble sleeping in a new place?

Lots of people do. And now researchers fromBrown Universityin Rhode Island think they know why. They found that one-half of the brain "remains more awake" than the other half when people are trying to sleep in a new place.

The sleep findings were reported in Current Biology by Brown University. In their report, the researchers said many people report they have a harder time sleeping the first night at a hotel or other places outside their home. They call it "first-night influence". "In Japan they say, 'If you change your bed, you can't sleep,'" said Yuka Sasaki, one of the report's writers. "You don't sleep very well in a new place. We all know about it."

The researchers measured brain waves(测量脑波)for 35 volunteers over two nights in a laboratory. The two nights were a week apart(间隔). They found during the first night the left half of the brain was more active than the right half. This was during the first deep-sleep period, the researchers said. 

Sasaki said a lot of questions remain. Researchers did not keep measuring brain waves all night long. So, they don't know if the left half keeps "watch" all night, or whether it "works in shifts(轮换)with the right half later in the night". They also do not know why the brain activity, at least during the first period of deep sleep, is always on the left half.

For some, this research may be calming. It is good to know that our brain is "looking out for us" in a new place. But it may not help with sleep. That brain activity, at least according to this new research, makes it harder to get the sleep people need to wake up well rested in the morning.