If you donˈt love yourself first, how can you confidently give and receive love? Only when we fully realize who we are and accept ourselves, can we understand the love of someone else.

      So letˈs start with some questions by asking yourself. Who are you deep down inside? What are your goals, strengths, clever ideas, likes and dislikes? What do you need to control your weaknesses and improve your growth?

     Self-discovery can be scary, because most people consider themselves to be unimportant. They would rather become dependent than depend on their own. Is that true in your case?

     Loving yourself influences your life. It influences whom you choose to fall in love with and your action in the relationship. lf there is no self-esteem (自尊), there will be no love.

     A person with high self-esteem is responsible for himself or herself, no matter how much love and care there is between that person and others. Such a person is not waiting to be saved and will not place unnecessary dependence on others. He or she is confident of his or her own ability, value and mind. He or she remembers that he or she is the prize.

     A person with high self-esteem depends on his or her own happiness, rather than looking for

someone else to make him or her happy. Happiness is an "inside" job. When you accept this responsibility for yourself, you build self-esteem, and then you receive love.

a. Asking others to answer questions.      

b. Finding out about oneˈs own likes and dislikes.

c. Improving oneˈs own growth.           

d. Finding out oneˈs own hidden facts. 

“Have a nice day!”may be a pleasant gesture or a meaningless expression. When my friend Maxie says “Have a nice day” with a smile, I know she sincerely cares about what happens to me. I feel loved and secure since another person cares about me and wishes me well.

“Have a nice day. Next!”This version of expression is spoken by a salesgirl at the supermarket who is rushing me and my groceries out the door. The words come out in the same tone (腔调) with a fixed procedure. They are spoken at me, not to me. Obviously, the concern for my day and everyone else’s is the management’s attempt to increase the business.

The expression is one of those behaviors that help people get along with each other. Sometimes it indicates the end of a meeting. As soon as you hear it, you know the meeting is at an end. Sometimes the expression serves us when we don’t know what to say. “Oh, you just had a tooth out? I’m terribly sorry, but have a nice day.”

The expression can be pleasant. If a stranger says “Have a nice day” to you, you may find it heart-warming because someone you don’t know has tried to be nice to you.

Although the use of the expression is an insincere, meaningless social custom at times, there is nothing wrong with the sentence except that it is a little uninteresting. The salesgirl, the waitress, the teacher, and all the countless others who speak it without thinking may not really care about my day. But in a strange and comfortable way, it’s nice to know they care enough to pretend they care when they really don’t care all that much. While the expression may not often be sincere, it is always spoken. The point is that people say it all the time when they like.

For some people, music is no fun at all. About 4% of the population is what scientists call “amusic.” People who are amusic are born without the ability to enjoy musical notes(音调). Amusic people often cannot tell the difference between two songs.

As a result, songs sound like noise to an amusic. Many amusics compare the sound of music to pieces of metal hitting each other. Life can be hard for amusics. In fact, most people cannot understand what it feels like to be amusic. Just going to a restaurant or a shopping center can be uncomfortable or even painful. That is why many amusics have to stay away from places where there is music. However, this can result in social loneliness. “I used to hate parties,” says Margaret, a seventy-year-old woman who only recently discovered that she was amusic. By studying people like Margaret, scientists are finally learning how to identify(辨别) this unusual condition.

Scientists say that the brains of amusics are different from those of people who can enjoy music. The difference is complex(复杂的), and it is not connected with poor hearing. Amusics can understand other nonmusical sounds well. They also have no problems understanding common speech. Scientists compare amusics to people who just can’t see certain colors.

Many amusics are happy when their condition is finally diagnosed (诊断). For years, Margaret felt embarrassed about her problem with music. Now she knows that she is not alone. That makes it easier for her to explain. “When people invite me to a concert, I just say, “No, thanks. I’m amusic,” says Margaret.

        Learning English is not easy. Almost every student sometimes   (1)   questions like these: Can I really learn English well? Can I really learn it well to communicate with others? If you are learning English, you may come across the  (2)   question.

        The answer is yes. According to some studies you will find it isn't as   (3)   as you think.

       Almost anyone can learn a foreign language   (4)   he or she  wants to. Some might learn it faster and some slower. But with the   (5)   ways and attitude, almost anyone can make it.

        Successful English learners   (6)  have positive attitude towards their studies. They don't wait for the chance to use English; instead, they try their best to   (7)   one. They don't miss every chance that they can use it. For example, they are not   (8)   making mistakes in front of others. They must know everyone may make mistakes sometimes. They   (9)   talking with people even in broken English, singing English songs or watching movies, even though they may not   (10)  the idea completely(完全地). They like to read simple stories or newspaper reports and try to guess the meaning all the time. They set goals(目标) and try  to achieve them. The most important thing is that they never give up.

After his parents’ meeting, Wang Jiaming, 14, from Beijing knows that he will face invisible(看不见) “enemies”--- “other excellent students”. “ Look at such and such a student. You and he are taught by the same teachers. Why couldn’t you be as ___  (1)  __ as him?” his mother would say. Many students hear _  (2)  ___ words from their parents. After the parents’ meeting, their parents begin to __(3)___ them with other students, especially those who are praised by teachers. “ I want to encourage my child to _  (3)  __ them,” explained Li Shulan, a mother of a 14-year-old boy from Xi’an, Shanxi. However, many children, like Wang, don’t like it. “I feel very _(5)_ and sometimes even “hate” those students,” Wang said.

Parents have good intentions (意图), but in fact they could ___(6)___ children’s self- esteem(自尊), said Lin Ying, a psychological(心理的)teacher at Xiamen Hubin Middle School in Fujian. If children feel hurt, they should let parents know it. “You can choose a relaxing occasion(场合), for example, over the dinner, and tell your parents your feelings,” Lin said. “Also, some articles online explain _  (4)   it could be bad for children. You may want to show such articles to your parents.”

It’s not all bad, though. Liu Jiayang, 13, from Taizhou, Zhejiang said students could take the chance to learn to be open-minded. “I find the students that my mom talks about really have strong __  (5)  __ that I don’t have. I take them as examples and try to __(9)___ with them,” she said. “During the process (过程), always keep in mind that you’re unique(特别的). Never _  (6)   heart,” Lin added.

Many teenagers feel that the most important people in their life are their friends. They believe that their family don’t know them as well as their friends do. In large families ,it is quite often for brothers and sisters to fight(打架),and then they can only go to their friends for some ideas.

It’s very important for teenagers to have one good friend or a group of friends. Even when they are not with their friends, they usually spend much time on the phone. This communication (交流) is very important in children’s growing up, because friends can be the right one to talk about something with .These things are difficult to say to the family.

However, parents often try to choose their children’s friends for them. Some parents even ask their children not to meet their good friends.

Music is an important part of our life. But recently, to cut the spending, some US schools have given up music classes. Chicago public schools fired(解雇) more than 1,000 teachers. Ten percent of them taught Art or Music.

In fact, that is not just a problem in the USA. In other countries, such asChinaand Britain, Music isn’t thought so important as Science, Math or History, either. That’s because music isn’t seen as a very important life skill, and students usually needn’t take any exams in Music. Many students are busy with schoolwork, so they choose to care about subjects that are tested often.

However learning music is useful in many ways. According to an early childhood music development program, performing music isn’t so simple as it looks. When performing music, people need different abilities to work together. While playing the piano, they see music notes and use their fingers to make sounds. They need to deal with all these things at the same time. They need attention and coordination(协调) of many senses. Music is also connected with science closely. As we all know, many scientists are good at playing music. For example, Einstein played the violin well, and German physicist Max Planck was interested in playing the piano, cello and pipe organ(管风琴).

Would you like to learn music? The most valuable thing music does is to enrich your hobbies and bring you lots of pleasure.

Car-hailing company DiDi signed an agreement with TAL Education Group to provide free online courses for the children of taxi drivers. The courses, worth 3 0 million yuan, cover all subjects from primary to high school. Children can study courses at home, saving parents’ time to spend or pick up children from off-line after-school classes.

According to Zhu Jingshi, vice president of DiDi, all 153 million registered (注册) taxi drivers of DiDi can ask for the courses on the company’s mobile app. The car-hailing company will evaluate (评价) the drivers and provide courses on the basis of the time they became registered drivers with the company, the number of passengers served and evaluation from passengers.

The health and education of children have remained top priorities(优先权) of Chinese parents, including taxi drivers. A survey done by DiDi and TAL showed that although the average monthly income (平均月收入) of taxi drivers is only 6000 yuan, many would like to pay 40 percent of their income for their children’s education.

The survey found that most taxi drivers were born in the 1970s and 1980s and worked seven days a week. More than 70 percent of them have children under 18 but very few have time to be with family and children. Only 8 percent of them said they had guided their children in doing homework. Because of these, 60 percent of drivers hope their children could re ceive the guidance from professional services.