Do you get angry when your friends sing loudly while you are trying to work, or when your best friend does not wait for you after school?

If you do, you need to take control of your feelings and stop getting angry so easily. Getting angry with people can cause you to lose friends.

Gray Gerber, an American high school teacher, has written My Feelings Are Like Wild Animals to help you control your feelings. It tells teens how to stay cool when bad things happen to them.

The book says that getting angry only makes problems worse. It can never make them better. Getting angry is not a natural way to act, the book says. It is just a bad habit, like smoking.

The book says you can control your anger easily. All you have to do is tell yourself not to be angry. When a baby falls over, he only cries if people are watching him.

Like a baby, you should only get angry if you are sure it is the right thing to do. The book gives many tips(提示)to help you if you get angry easily. Here are our tips:

   (1)Keep a record. Every time you get angry, write down why you are angry.

   (2)Ask your friends to stop talking to you when you get angry. This will teach you not to be angry.

   (3)Do something different. When you get angry, walk away from the problem and go somewhere else. Try to laugh.

   If you donˈt love yourself first, how can you confidently give and receive love? Only when we fully realize who we are and accept ourselves, can we understand the love of someone else.

      So letˈs start with some questions by asking yourself. Who are you deep down inside? What are your goals, strengths, clever ideas, likes and dislikes? What do you need to control your weaknesses and improve your growth?

     Self-discovery can be scary, because most people consider themselves to be unimportant. They would rather become dependent than depend on their own. Is that true in your case?

     Loving yourself influences your life. It influences whom you choose to fall in love with and your action in the relationship. lf there is no self-esteem (自尊), there will be no love.

     A person with high self-esteem is responsible for himself or herself, no matter how much love and care there is between that person and others. Such a person is not waiting to be saved and will not place unnecessary dependence on others. He or she is confident of his or her own ability, value and mind. He or she remembers that he or she is the prize.

     A person with high self-esteem depends on his or her own happiness, rather than looking for

someone else to make him or her happy. Happiness is an "inside" job. When you accept this responsibility for yourself, you build self-esteem, and then you receive love.

a. Asking others to answer questions.      

b. Finding out about oneˈs own likes and dislikes.

c. Improving oneˈs own growth.           

d. Finding out oneˈs own hidden facts. 

    As the saying goes, "Friends are treasure in our lives." I remember when I was growing up, my mom always ____(1)____, "Half the fun of doing anything is sharing it with others." It's true. Friends make  ____(2)____ enjoy the taste of our success and joys and comfort us in our challenging moments. They provide a mirror for us to learn more about ourselves. I've always looked at friends as family ____(3)____. They enrich our lives. As a famous writer said, "A friend is a present which you give to ____(4)____."

    To be a good friend, it's important to be a good listener. Hear what your friend says first rather than make  ____(5)____ quickly.

    Patience(耐心)is an important part of being a good friend,  ____(6)____. You know the old golden rule, "Care  ____(7)____others the way you would like them to do you." The support of a friend during a difficult time can make a difference between success  ____(8)____ failure. Encouragement and confidence are the ____(9)____gifts that can change a person's life.

    We should choose our friends carefully, because they can have a great influence on our lives. As  ____(10)____ told me, "The attitudes(态度)of your friends are like the buttons(按钮)on a lift. They will either take you up or down."

“Have a nice day!”may be a pleasant gesture or a meaningless expression. When my friend Maxie says “Have a nice day” with a smile, I know she sincerely cares about what happens to me. I feel loved and secure since another person cares about me and wishes me well.

“Have a nice day. Next!”This version of expression is spoken by a salesgirl at the supermarket who is rushing me and my groceries out the door. The words come out in the same tone (腔调) with a fixed procedure. They are spoken at me, not to me. Obviously, the concern for my day and everyone else’s is the management’s attempt to increase the business.

The expression is one of those behaviors that help people get along with each other. Sometimes it indicates the end of a meeting. As soon as you hear it, you know the meeting is at an end. Sometimes the expression serves us when we don’t know what to say. “Oh, you just had a tooth out? I’m terribly sorry, but have a nice day.”

The expression can be pleasant. If a stranger says “Have a nice day” to you, you may find it heart-warming because someone you don’t know has tried to be nice to you.

Although the use of the expression is an insincere, meaningless social custom at times, there is nothing wrong with the sentence except that it is a little uninteresting. The salesgirl, the waitress, the teacher, and all the countless others who speak it without thinking may not really care about my day. But in a strange and comfortable way, it’s nice to know they care enough to pretend they care when they really don’t care all that much. While the expression may not often be sincere, it is always spoken. The point is that people say it all the time when they like.

Manners are important in our lives．Everyone likes a person  (1)   good manners. As parents, you should teach your children manners as soon as they can   (2)   what you're saying.

Here are some basic manners for children.

Don't talk when other people are  (3)  . Gently（轻轻地）tell your children to wait until someone finishes his words. Always greet someone when they  (4)  your house. You can teach your children to shake hands with adults but it's not  (5)  to shake hands with other children. And your children should always say "Hello" to those who visit you  (6)   they feel welcome. Say "Please" and "Thank you" often. If someone    (7)  them, tell them to say "You're welcome."

Have good sportsmanship（运动品德）. After playing a game,no matter what the  (8)  will be,be pleasant. If your children win, tell them not to  (9)  the others. If they lose,tell them not to get mad．Open doors for others. When going into buildings,they should  (10)  the elders to go first and open the door for them.

Life comes in a package. This package includes happiness and sadness, failure and success, hope and despair. Life is a learning process. Experiences in life teach us new lessons and make us a better person. With each passing day we learn to deal with kinds of situations．

Love plays an important role in our life. Love makes you feel wanted. Without love a person could become cruel. In the early stage of our life, our parents are the ones who show us with unconditional love and care, they teach us about what is right and wrong, good and bad. But we always tend to take this for granted (认为理所应当). It is only after marriage and having kids that a person understands and becomes sensitive to others’ feelings.

Happiness achieved by bringing a smile on otherˈs face gives a certain level of fulfillment(成就)．Peace of mind makes you feel happy. No mind is happy without peace. We realize the true worth of happiness when we are sad．Sadness comes from the death of a loved one or the failure .But all of these things will pass away.

Failure is the way to success, and it helps us to touch the sky, teaches us to survive and shows us a specific way. Success brings in money, fame, pride and self-respect.

Hope is what keeps life going. Parents always hope their children will do well. Hope makes us dream. Hope builds in patience. Life teaches us not to despair even in the darkest hour, because after every night there is a day.

   Life teaches us not to regret over yesterday, for it has passed and is beyond our control. Tomorrow is unknown, for it could either be bright or dull. So what we can choose is to work hard today, so that we will enjoy a better tomorrow.

It is not an easy job to be a good parent. Here I’d like to share something with other parents.

I have learned that little kids are loving dogs, while teenagers are cats. It’s easy to be a dog owner. You feed it and train it, and it will put its head on your knee gently. Whenever you call it, it will run to you with great warmth.

Then around age 13, your lovely little puppy turns into a big old cat. When you ask it to come inside, it looks surprised, wondering why you give such an order. It may turn its nose up at the meal you’re serving. When you reach out to touch its head, it will stay away from you, as if trying to hide its own secrets.

The kid now is not a dog any more. It thinks something in a totally different way. It seems so strange. Maybe it even doesn’t want to go out with its family members.

You may think that you have done something wrong, because you are the one who raises it and stays with it all the time. Flooded with guilt and fear, you double your efforts to make your pet under your control, but the result always turns out to be disappointing.

Instead of continuing to act like a dog owner, you should learn to behave like a cat owner. Put a dish of food near the door, and let it come to you. But remember that a cat also needs your help and your love. You need to tell it there is a door which is always oven for it.

One day, your grown-up child will walk into the kitchen,give you a big kiss and say, “Let me get those dishes for you.”

Then you  realize your cat is a dog again.

Cars are very popular in America. When the kids are fourteen years old, they dream of having their own   (1)  Many students work after school to   (2)   a car. In most places   (3)   people learn to drive in high school. They have to take a   (4)   test to get a license. Learning to drive and getting a driver’s   (5)  may be one of the most exciting things in their lives. For many, that piece of paper is an important symbol(象征)that they are now grown-ups.

Americans seem to love their cars almost more than anything else. People almost never go to see a doctor when they are  (6)  ___. But they will take   (7)   cars to a “hospital” at the smallest sign of a problem. At weekends, people   (8)  most of the time in washing and waxing(打蜡) their cars. For some families it is not enough to have   (9)  car. They often have two or even three. Husbands need a car to go to work. Housewives need a car to go shopping or to take the children to school or   (10)   activities.