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Many people say there is a lot more conflict with parents when you're a teenager. This may be because you are changing in so many ways. Parents can sometimes have difficulty coping with all of the changes and can feel uncertain about how to respond.
As you get older you change and grow in many ways. One of the ways is in how you think. It's a time when you start to think how to understand the world for yourself. Sometimes your values and beliefs can become different from your parents, leading to conflict.
When you were young it was pretty easy for your parents to end a conflict with you. But now you're bigger and louder. It can seem like there are more arguments because they can be more complex and harder to resolve.
As you were a young child, your parents were the leaders of the family. As you mature, it becomes a more equal relationship. This change doesn't happen overnight. The process of moving from one type of relationship to another can be a real struggle.
While you're going from being a child to a teenager, your parents are moving through their life cycle as well. They're going from young adults, to middle aged people. And we're all having our own "age related" problems along the way. Parents can also change their way of handling things.
It's OK for you to make the first move in dealing with the conflict. When you can work out your differences positively, you'll continue to have a good relationship. Here are a few tips:
●Be respectful when discussing any areas of disagreement.
●Be willing to listen to your parent's view.
●Stay calm.
●Don't blame each other.
●Work together, think about what you want in common and work it out together.
Use a problem solving model like this one: decide together exactly what the problem is and then think of the possible solutions. Remember to be open and creative so that you can find more solutions. Think out the consequences of each possible solution and choose one to try it out. If it doesn’t work, try another idea.
The good news is that all the studies indicate that generally things settle down when people are about 18. What they can't agree on is why this gets better. Some say it's because your parents have finally begun to see you as the young adult you are. Some say it's because you've got through all the tough growth in your thinking and emotions and your physical changes. Others say it's just because many young people move out of home around eighteen and get away from their parents!
As you move through adolescence and into young adulthood, your relationships with your parents seem to getbetter. You’ll realize parents can be your best support. They will support young people through the good times and the bad times.
Title: Conflict Between Teenagers and Parents
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(1) for having much conflict during this period |
Many changes are happening: ◇The way you think changes and you develop some (2) values and beliefs from your parents’.
◇Your parents can’t solve conflict (3) as you begin to have your own opinion. ◇The (4) between you and your parents is changing. ◇Your parents are also changing and have their own problems. |
Tips for (5) conflict |
◇You can (6) the process first.
◇Show(7) , listen carefully, stay calm, avoid ( (7)
each other and work together. |
When you enter your young adulthood |
◇There will be (8) conflict between you and your parents when you become a young adult.
◇You will find that your parents are the people who (9) you
the most. |