2．
You want to be confident and feel confident, but what if youˈre starting with little or no confidence? True self-confidence isnˈt an overnight acquisition. It takes dedication to realize you are a good human being that is worthy of respect and love.
Recognize your insecurities
What does that voice in the back of your mind say? Why do you feel uncomfortable or ashamed of yourself? This could be anything from regrets to friends at school or negative experience. Whatever is making you feel unworthy, or ashamed, identify it, give it a name, and write it down. You can also tear these written pieces to start feeling positive on those points.
Get rid of insecurities gradually
Each day you should weaken it. Thereˈs no quick fix. Get to the root of the problem; focus on it and understand that you need to resolve each issue before you can move on. Check if it is an old past emotion and if it is really still relevant or applicable in your life today. And that does not mean you have to get rid of whatever makes you feel bad (many times, you simply canˈt). You need to learn to accept yourself, your past, your circumstances as they are, without necessarily thinking of them as “bad”.
Identify your successes
Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you do extremely well, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to be proud of them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority (自卑) is a state of mind in which youˈve declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized.
Be positive
Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior—they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to dislike and look down upon yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to show your strengths and qualities to others. By doing so, you strengthen those ideas in your mind and encourage your growth in a positive direction.
Apply “facial feedback theory”
Studies surrounding what’s called the "facial feedback theory" suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to express certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run.
Help others
When you know you’re helpful to the people around you, and are making a positive difference in other people’s lives (even if itˈs just being kinder to the person who serves you coffee in the morning), youˈll know that you are a positive force in the world—which will boost yourself confidence.
Now, dear friends, will you let confidence keep you company? Be confident, and accomplishing your goals will be just around the corner.
Title: The ways to become confident
Specific ways
|
Supporting details
|
Recognizing insecurities
|
Find out what (1) you uncomfortable or ashamed，forget it and feel positive.
|
(2) insecurities gradually
|
Find out the (3) of problems, resolve them and learn to accept (4) you are.
|
Identifying successes
|
Find out your talents, take pride in the mand (5) yourself for your successes. |
Being positive
|
·Speak (6) about yourself.
·Don’t make yourself (7) by others.
|
Applying “facial feedback theory”
|
Look in the mirror and smile to gain more (8) .
|
Helping others
|
Be of (9) to the people around you.
|
Conclusion
Confidence helps people accomplish goals and become worthy to be (10) andloved.
|